I just wanted to write something about human contact, and the people who mean something to us, there are an awful lot of posts online about how technology is ruining our ability to be empathetic or our genuine human contact, and I really take offense at that.
In my lifetime I have met some of the most exceptional human beings, I have been really lucky in that regard both in real life and online.
And maybe its not like that for everyone, but from my perspective if you meet someone who you can be yourself with, and who see's your damaged imperfect soul and loves it anyway, it shouldn't matter what they look like, where they are in the world, whether you have ever physically interacted.
The therapy of those deep personal conversations with people applies no matter who they are, there is nothing more blissful in life than sharing your deepest heartfelt feelings and thoughts with someone who not only listens and understands but enthusiastically encourages them.
If we somehow decided that only face to face interactions like those counted, we would have far fewer of them.
In New Zealand where I am now, I can sit under the stars on a freezing southern night with a group of my friends discussing our place in the universe, and how we can be better people, and its beautiful and social and I bask in those blissful nights.
But I feel exactly the same way when I am talking to my girls in Kentucky who love me like a sister, when my gorgeous friend in LA tells me that I am a beautiful precious soul, my grumpy trans friend from the wilderness of Washington state, or when the friends I made in Europe are telling me they miss me.
I feel amazing no matter how I interact with people, and lots of them I have never met, and I may never meet given my current legal predicament.
As far as intimate relationships online go, I have had a few, and emotionally they were probably more fulfilling than my real life relationships. But they will never be the same as real life, you need physical intimacy and closeness for things to really progress. But it's every bit as easy to be infatuated and fall deeply in love with someones soul online. Dangerous as that is.
I do miss being loved and touched by people, I have been really lucky to have loved and been loved by some beautiful women in my life. And I wish I'd tried harder to hold onto a few.
But by not holding on, I am able to be me now, so now I just need to get myself to a point that I feel like I can date again as me. And hope I have that feeling again.
Ugh... so there we go... vent over.
I love my people, I guess is my point, so thank you for being a part of my life.
